Shame? Guilt?
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Good Friday...Easter!!! What does this day symbolizes to you??
Today I went to join my fellow colleuage in CHC jurong west for a drama "A second chance".
Claps clap...it's a great drama. It shows back 2000 years ago, Jesus's life. From John 8 to the day
He was cruxify to His Resurrection. The one who acted as Jesus, I believe as he was acting
he feel the pain & joy. The moment that is deep in my heart, is the part where, Jesus is carrying the cross
to the place of skulls where He will be nail. Every step he took, He is whip by the romans solider, I see the scars,
I can't stop but wept. Every whip, every scars, I felt the pain right in my heart.
To all my friends:
Jesus is the answer
For the world today
Above him there's no other,
Jesus is the way
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I'm somehow been thinking of topic of shame & guilt this day...
Guilt, because it emphasizes what someone did wrong, tends to elicit more constructive responses,particularly responses which seek to mend the damage done. Guilt is tied to beliefs about what is right and wrong, moral and immoral. When we violate one of these moral guidelines, it causes us to feel guilty over our actions and seek to fix what we have done (see cognitive dissonance). As a result, guilt is an important tool in maintaining standards of right and wrong in individuals and society as a whole. As such, guilt can often be used as a tool to overcome conflict.
Shame, on the other hand, emphasizes what is wrong with ourselves. It has a much more inward focus, and as such, leads shameful parties to feel poorly about themselves, rather than simply the actions they have taken. The result is often an inward-turning behavior -- avoiding others, hiding your face, removing yourself from social situations. Therefore, shame can be problematic, as it is often less constructive than guilt. In fact, shame can lead to withdrawal from social situations and a subsequent defensive, aggressive, and retaliatory behavior, which only exacerbates conflict, rather than alleviating it.
Shame can rob us from many things
(1) Rob us from having joy & peace
(2)Shame cause us to be anger & agression
(3) Shame cause physcological behaviour
(4) Withdrawal from people
** I believe that there's still alot what shame can do to us. One very significant thing I went thru is self-condemn, the painful period of my life. You know what shame lock us up..Lets break that shame barrier!!!!
=Happy Easter=
